Topic:   Recommended Books Choosing Our Parents

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I'm just finishing “You Have Chosen to Remember.” It is a great read - very simple to understand, lots of great tips. I've been reading “A Course in Miracles” for about 2 years. I'm getting there with it. I have a question about choosing our parents before we are born. Mine were a bit abusive. Was I supposed to learn how to forgive and that is why I chose them? I also married twice and both wives were abusive. I have completely forgiven all with no reservations, but this lesson stuff is a new thought process for me - but I find it very interesting. Can you recommend any other books on the lesson stuff that goes into more details? I have read the “Disappearance of the Universe,” a lot of Wayne Dyer, Eckardt Tolle, etc. I'm trying to move away from my ego-self but on a more continuous level. Right now, I'm up and down with this stuff. I'm purchasing a few more copies of your book for friends. I've started a few friends on a new journey with this stuff with really positive results. I was living in Florida for many years, had a couple of strokes at age 45, and I'm back in Jersey. But because of it all, I found out about forgiveness quicker than I probably would have, if at all. So your book was greatly enjoyed and is now home in my collection. I wish you great success and peace in all you do. Thank you.

- Dan, New Jersey, USA

Thank you for your kind complements.

In order, and I have a reason for this order, I would recommend the following books:

1 – “Many Lives, Many Masters” by Dr. Brian Weiss
2 – “Journey of Souls” by Michael Newton, PH.D
3 – “Destiny of Souls” by Michael Newton, PH.D
4 – “Living with Joy” by Sanaya Roman
5 – “Spiritual Growth” by Sanaya Roman

All are great reads, very enjoyable, entertaining, and knowledge filled. By the way, I have not read “The Disappearance of the Universe,” but you’re the second person to mention this book to me in the last few days, so I am going to Amazon to purchase it as soon as I send this e-mail. Thanks for the reminder!

The first three books will help re-enforce in you and help you remember the part you played in choosing your parents. There will come a day when you will remember this. There will come a day when gratitude and love will be your only response to your parents for their participation and to yourself for choosing them. I was very much in the same boat with my grandmother (who was my father figure growing up) as you were with your parents. I understand how you feel. I can’t begin to express the number of lessons I learned from my grandmother's behavior toward us. I learned who I did not want to be from my grandmother. I learned how I did not want to treat people from my grandmother. I learned how to forgive by learning to forgive my grandmother. From my grandmother’s disciplining and physical punishment, I learned that I would never raise my hand in anger to any other human. I learned how to be loving to people who are in emotional pain and spiritual distress because that’s the space my grandmother was in. Who I now am, and how I choose to act toward others - is in large part because of my experience and interaction with my grandmother. I could go on and on, truly, but I feel you get the point. I can never in a million years offer enough gratitude, love and compassion to my grandmother. Today, I kneel down and bless and thank God for my Grandmother.

Books four and five will assist you in grounding these thoughts and applying them to your daily experience. It is important with these five books, as it is with my book, to slowly and carefully go through them, to write down what it is you think you’re getting from them, and to create your own personal daily exercises with the information provided. If after you read a part, and a light bulb appears, or the hairs stand up on your arms, ask yourself how what you are reading can apply in your everyday life. Feel free to write notes in your books, journal interesting new ideas you’ve read, find ways to apply this information to your everyday life. Find ways to replace judgment with compassion, anger with understanding, sadness with gratitude, and fear with faith. Become more aware of the moment. Become more aware of patterns you’re repeating, for there are lessons to be learned from them. Figure out why you chose abusive parents and then chose two abusive wives. Work every day, little by little, step by step, moment by moment on learning to love and respect yourself more. The more you do this for yourself, the more you will attract loving and respectful friends and partners. You are God’s Son my friend. Your true and only Father loves and respects you unconditionally. He created you in His image. The truth that is within you is all loving, respectful, kind, generous and compassionate. When you express these emotions and energies toward yourself, and your brother and sisters, you are allowing Him to flow through you, you are allowing your truth to be seen and heard, experienced and felt. 

If in your day a lost brother appears and wants to judge and criticize you or others, choose not to play that game any longer. When these opportunities appear, challenge yourself to allow God to flow through you, for the more you do it, the easier and more natural it will become, and then one day you will need to challenge yourself no longer, for you will have remembered your natural flow; and when you do, you will want no other way. Remember my dear friend, when these opportunities appear, your brother is simply assisting you in getting to where you truly desire to be! Would you not offer gratitude to someone who is helping you get to where you want to be? Would you not offer God thanks for sending you a reminder of where you truly desire to go, and who you truly desire to be? Are not your brothers, sisters, parents and even so called strangers a gift that’s being offered to you? My friend, I know the day is coming soon when you will recognize that this is so.  I know that there will come a day when you will see the gift that is being presented to you – every moment. Yes my friend, that day is coming. That day is coming soon.

Peace, Health, Happiness, Love, Laughter and Light.

Your brother,

James Blanchard Cisneros

   

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of the great spiritual / self development book You Have Chosen to Remember: A Journey from Perception to Knowledge, Peace of Mind and Joy by James Blanchard Cisneros.