Daily Inspiration: October 24. Saying “No” In a Loving Manner

The ego has taught us that saying “no” is rude, creates conflict, seems selfish, and makes us feel guilty and unloving for expressing ourselves in that manner. The ego has also programmed us to believe that saying “yes”, when you really mean no, should make us feel resentful, thus making us feel bad or weak-minded. And so as always, the ego’s solutions are, in one manner or another, judgmental, self-destructive and end up separating us from each other. Today, understanding the little controlling mind games that the ego tries to play on us, let us instead of feeling the pressure to offer a response, say to the individual: “Let me get back to you on that.” This will give you the opportunity slow down time enough to put aside the ego’s demands, and practice consciously aligning with your true loving nature. With the time that you have given yourself, ask your heart, what is the most genuine, self-loving response you can offer? What response will offer the truth in you, that part of you that is One with Source, the most peace? Remember, we are all One, thus the answer that the truth in you comes up with, that is most genuine and self-loving to you, will be the best and most loving response that you can offer to others. Being kind, compassionate and understanding with yourself, being who in truth you are, will radiate kindness, compassion and understanding to all others. Let us also remember, that respecting how you yourself feel, again because we are all One, is being respectful of others. No ones truth will ever judge you for your truthful response. Yes, their ego may try to judge you, but remember, their ego is not the truth in them, it is their false unconscious self. So when their egos are reacting in a judgmental manner to your decision, just remember, that it is not the truth in them that is thinking or speaking for them. When their truth takes back control of their own mind, it will always answer with gratitude, compassion, understanding and grace. And so remember, that their response to you, is not really a function of your answer, but a function of if their truth, is or is not, speaking for them.

When you remember that you have co-created a perfect and sacred individualized journey with God, your answering in the so-called “positive” or “negative” will not matter. They will not matter because when you align with, and come from a place of Love, both the “yes” and the “no” are loving answers. Love would never put pressure on you for a specific answer. Love understands that all answers no matter what they are, no matter how the ego has programmed others to interpret them, that come from a place of love, are loving, and will rain Love upon all. Those who are aligned with their true nature, will feel your love, no matter what you tell them, because you will be focus on being self-loving, on doing what is respectful of your own growth, healing, awakening and journey, and being truly self loving is loving everyone. Being that we are all One, the way that you will treat others is really a function of how you are treating yourself. If you are respecting your own self, what you truly do or do not do, will come from a respectful place. Do not cheat others by cheating yourself, because cheating yourself is cheating them. Love yourself, because loving yourself is loving them. Respecting the journey that you have co-created with God, is respecting the journey that they have co-created with God. Healing yourself is healing for others. Doing what feels right for you, is doing what is right for them. The message is simple, because truth in reality is simple. The message is always loving and self loving, because you yourself are Love’s creation. When you make the conscious choice to respect yourself, and take a moment to align with the truth in you, this is the greatest gift that you can offer others.

Today, let us practice taking care of ourselves while also understanding that we are all One, and so by acting in this self-loving manner, you will be taking care of, and being respectful of, all others. The more you practice checking in on yourself, and getting that saying no, can actually be the most self loving and therefore loving thing you can say, the easier it will be to say “no” with peace, love and compassion, or “yes” with peace, love and conviction. When peace, love and compassion are your conscious base, all answers, no matter what they are, will be offering self and others peace, love and compassion. As God’s creation your journey is sacred, and not only the parts you say ‘yes’ to, but also the parts you say ‘no’ to, both are equally here to bless this world. They are both a blessing to you, and because we are all One, both your “yes’s” and “no’s” will equally be a blessing to all others. Today, let us practice letting go of the pressures that the ego’s puts on us to answer like it has programmed us to answer. Instead we will now practice giving ourselves the time to consciously align with Love, and begin to answer only from a place of Love, and it will be by doing so that all those around us, regardless of how we answer them, they will be and feel loved. Our true eternal essence is Love, and thus when we align with Love, loving others will be natural, feel right and will bring us peace of mind and joy. It is not the ego’s false ideas of what “yes” and “no” mean, that will bring us peace; it is being loving and being respectful of ourselves that will. It will be this new-found focus on loving and respecting yourself and how you feel, that will then radiate love and respect to all those around you.

Today, when ask if you can do something for another, take an extra few moments to practice consciously aligning with the truth in you, and ask yourself what would be the most self-loving and self-respecting thing to say or do. The more you practice this conscious self alignment with your true nature, with Love, the more love you will have to offer to others. Now, when you answer from a place of self-love, it is not because you are selfish, it is because you have remembered that because we are all One, the most internally loving response is what will shine the most love out and onto this world. The most self loving response, is the most loving response that you can offer another. Your response in truth has nothing to do with a ‘yes’ or ‘no,’ it has to do with love, and so when you align with love, whatever that response may be, it will be a loving response. The truth in all others is not really concern with your yes or no answer, the truth in others only desires your love, and so when you come from a place of love, whatever answer that comes from this sacred place, is the answer that the truth in others really wants to hear.

I would love to read your thoughts on this post. How does it affect you? How do you think you can implement it in your life? Is there something else that we can add to this post to make it more helpful or complete? Is there something in your own life experience, any life strategy that you partake in, that relates to this post that you think others will find useful? Please be so kind as to share your thoughts with us, in the comment section below.

All glory to God.

Peace, Health, Happiness, Love, Laughter, and Light.

James Blanchard Cisneros

Author of the book “You Have Chosen to Remember”

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  1. Jen

    Learning to say no in a loving manner and in a way that integrates self-love is so important. Reading this soothes my soul. Thank you so much for another truly inspiring post! I LOVE your daily inspirational messages.

    • James Blanchard Cisneros
      James Blanchard Cisneros10-04-2017

      Thank you Jen for your kind words. We are all One, and so if saying ‘no’ feels like the most self loving thing to say at that moment, when you are loving yourself you are loving everyone, when you are taking care of yourself, you are taking care of everyone. Peace. JBC

  2. Shelly

    I’m with Jen. Thank you, James, for helping me say yes and/or no in the most loving manner that I am able to do.
    Peace and blessings to you all,

    • James Blanchard Cisneros
      James Blanchard Cisneros10-24-2017

      Thank you Shelly for being open to the message. Love is who you are, and there is nothing in truth easier than being who in truth you are. Be who in truth you are, that is all you in truth need ever do. Peace. JBC

  3. Donna Woodman
    Donna Woodman10-24-2017

    Yes I have bern working on that and my yes is so automatic I have a hard time back pedaling.Then the guilt follows after the no.The anger gets involv3d.Im aware of it working on it and it’s still going strong. So today I proclaim through the help of Jesus and The Holy Spirit to stop doing it.yay.

    • James Blanchard Cisneros
      James Blanchard Cisneros10-24-2017

      Thank you Donna for being open to the message. Let us thank all those people who are offering us the opportunities to practice taking a moment for ourselves in order to consciously align with our Source, and then allow our Source to answer for us. Love, Jesus, Holy Spirit, they are the Truth in us, and so when we practice consciously aligning with, and allowing the Truth in us to answer for us, Love results. Peace. JBC

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