Daily Inspiration: October 24. Saying “No” In a Loving Manner

The ego has taught us that saying “no” to someone’s request is rude, creates conflict and seems selfish. This makes us feel guilty and unloving for saying “no.” The ego has also programmed us to believe that saying “yes” when we actually mean no, should make us feel resentful. This then makes us feel bad or weak-minded. As always, the ego’s solutions are in one form or another judgmental, self-destructive and end up separating us from each other. Today, let us place the ego’s programming aside and if need be, say to the individual, “I will get back to you on that.” This statement will give you the time you need to align with your truth, your loving nature. Then you can ask your heart: “What is the most genuine and self-loving response I can offer? What response will bring me the most peace?” Being all One, the answer that you come up with will best serve not only you, but also all others. Today, be kind, compassionate and understanding with yourself. This self-care will then radiate to others. Being all One, respecting how you feel is being respectful of others. No one’s truth will ever judge you for your truthful response. Yes, their ego may judge you but remember their ego is not the truth in them, it is their false unconscious self. If they judge you, recall it is not the truth in them that is thinking or speaking. When their truth takes back control of their own mind, your choice will be answered with peace, clarity and grace. Today, recall that their response to you is not a function of your answer, but a function of if their truth is or is not speaking for them.

You have co-created a perfect and sacred individualized journey with God. When you recall this, your answering in the so-called “positive” or “negative” will not be a factor. It will not be a factor because when you align with and come from a place of Love both the “yes” and the “no” are a loving response. Love would never put pressure on you for a specific response. Knowing this simply treat yourself as Love would. Love understands that all answers no matter what come from your highest level of self awareness in that moment in time. No matter how the ego has programmed others to interpret them they are in that moment your best effort to come from a place of love. Those who are aligned with their true nature will feel your love no matter what you tell them.  Those who are not aligned with the truth in them will not feel your love no matter what you tell them. Being all One when you are being self-loving doing what is respectful of your own growth, healing, awakening process you are loving everyone. That is why the way you treat others is really a result and function of how you are treating yourself. If you are respecting your own self what you do or do not do will come from a respectful place. Do not cheat others by cheating yourself. Cheating yourself is cheating them. Love yourself because loving yourself is loving them. Respecting the journey you have co-created with God is being respectful of the journey that they have co-created with God. Healing yourself is healing for others. When you come from a place of love doing what feels right for you is doing what is right for them. The message is simple because truth in reality is simple. The message is always loving and self loving because you yourself are Love’s creation. Today, aligned with your truth offer all others only the truth in you. This is the greatest gift you can offer others.

Today, let us practice taking care of ourselves. Being all One by acting in this self-loving manner you will be taking care and being respectful of all others. Practice checking in on yourself and getting that saying no can actually be the most self loving and therefore loving thing you can say. The more you practice this the easier it will be to say “no” with peace, love and compassion, or “yes” with peace, love and conviction. When peace, love and compassion become your foundation all answers no matter what they are will offer self and others peace, love and compassion. As God’s creation your journey is sacred. Not just the parts you say ‘yes’ to but also the parts you say ‘no’ to. Both are equally here to bless this world. They are both a blessing to you and being all One all your “yes’s” and “no’s” will equally be a blessing to others. Today, let us practice letting go of the pressures that the ego’s puts on us to answer like it has programmed us to answer. Let us no longer feel guilted into saying yes. Instead, let us practice giving ourselves the time to align with Love and begin to answer only from a place of love and self-love. By doing so all those around us regardless of how we answer them will be and feel loved. Our true eternal essence is Love. When we align with Love, loving others will feel natural and right. It will bring us peace of mind and joy. It is not the ego’s false concepts of what “yes” and “no” means that brings us peace. It is being loving and respectful of ourselves that will. It will be this new-found focus on loving and respecting yourself and how you feel that will then radiate love and respect to all those around you.

Today, if you are asked to do something for another, stop for a moment, align with the loving truth in you, and ask yourself, “What would be the most self-loving response?” Being all One, the most self-loving response is the most loving response you can offer another. Now when you answer from a place of self-love, it is not because you are selfish. It is because you know that what benefits one benefits all. In truth, your response has nothing to do with a yes or no. It has to do with love. Now, because you align with love, whatever your response may be, it will be a loving one. The truth in others is not really interested in your yes or no response. It is interested in your love. Thus, when you come from a place of love, that is the answer that the truth in others really wants to hear.

I would love to read your thoughts on this post. How does it affect you? How do you think you can implement it in your life? Is there something else that we can add to this post to make it more helpful or complete? Is there something in your own life experience, any life strategy that you partake in, that relates to this post that you think others will find useful? Please be so kind as to share your thoughts with us, in the comment section below.

All glory to God.

Peace, Health, Happiness, Love, Laughter, and Light.

James Blanchard Cisneros

Author of the book “You Have Chosen to Remember”

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Comments (6)

Yes I have bern working on that and my yes is so automatic I have a hard time back pedaling.Then the guilt follows after the no.The anger gets involv3d.Im aware of it working on it and it’s still going strong. So today I proclaim through the help of Jesus and The Holy Spirit to stop doing it.yay.

Thank you Donna for being open to the message.

Let us thank all those people who are offering us the opportunities to practice taking a moment for ourselves in order to consciously align with our Source, and then allow our Source to answer for us.

Because our Source answers from a perfect place of peace and love, even when we say no, it will be a peaceful and loving no.

Love, Jesus, Holy Spirit, they are the Truth in us, and so when we practice consciously aligning with, and allowing the Truth in us to answer for us, peace and love results.

Peace. JBC

I’m with Jen. Thank you, James, for helping me say yes and/or no in the most loving manner that I am able to do.
Peace and blessings to you all,

Thank you Shelly for being open to the message.

Love is who you are, and there is nothing in truth easier than being who in truth you are.

Yes or no, when you are aligned with your loving nature, will be the perfect answer for all involved.

Today, when ask, first align with the truth within, with your loving nature, and then that “yes” or “no” will be equally loving in nature.

Peace. JBC

Learning to say no in a loving manner and in a way that integrates self-love is so important. Reading this soothes my soul. Thank you so much for another truly inspiring post! I LOVE your daily inspirational messages.

Thank you Jen for your kind words.

Being all One, and so if saying ‘no’ feels like the most self loving thing to say at that moment, then it will best serves the person who hears it.

Being all One, when you are loving yourself, you are being loving to everyone.

Being all One, when you are taking care of yourself, you are taking care of everyone.

Peace. JBC

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