Back to the case of the fatal car accident. Before I begin to offer the Godself’s way of viewing an individual’s passing, I will first say this: you need to feel and experience whatever it is you think you need to feel and experience. Do not judge yourself for the way you feel or grieve. Do not ever judge anyone else for the way or amount of time they choose to grieve. If they believe they need a few months or years, let them have the time they need. Do not try to force your beliefs on someone who is not ready for them, for all you will find will be a brick wall. The best thing you can do is to be there for them, pray for them, and most importantly, continue to work on bettering and advancing yourself. You can serve someone better by learning to love yourself and others more. The more you learn to love yourself and others, the less you will be bothered by how others choose to experience life and grow. The more you learn to love yourself and others, the more at peace you become, and the more peace other individuals will experience in your presence.
– James Blanchard Cisneros, Author of You Have Chosen to Remember: A
Journey from Perception to Knowledge, Peace of Mind and Joy, p. 136
The following excerpt was written by Joseph Bayly in his book, “A View from the Hearse,” after he laid three of his sons to rest. It may give you some insight on how to comfort loved ones as they grieve.
“I was sitting, torn by grief. Someone came and talked to me of God’s dealings, of why it happened, of hope beyond the grave. He talked constantly; he said things I knew were true. I was unmoved except to wish he’d go away. He finally did.”
“Another came and sat beside me. He just sat beside me for an hour and more, listened when I said something, answered briefly, prayed simply, left. I was moved. I was comforted. I hated to see him go.” 38
– Joseph Bayly, A View from the Hearse
Cited in You Have Chosen to Remember, p. 286
I would like to add another writer’s view on the subject of death and dying. I have chosen some passages from Pat Rodegast’s “Emmanuel.” Pat channeled a spirit that referred to itself by the name of Emmanuel. I have met with Pat and Emmanuel and find them to be honest, wise and believable.
On dying young
“An individual dies young because he has completed his task. The being that has passed will be reminded of his task and that it was indeed his time. He will be offered a glance of the future of all those left behind, and he will find comfort and peace in this.”
“You are an eternal being. Your brother is an eternal being. Once you leave this earth, this so-called young soul becomes a very old soul.” 39
– Pat Rodegast, Emmanuel
Cited in You Have Chosen to Remember, p. 289
On preparing for the loss of loved ones
There are two answers. Loved ones are never lost. You must experience it in your own way. Of course, you will miss the physical being but when you learn to go beyond that, there will be no missing at all. Even as you sit in your human form, once you allow yourself – notice the word “allow” to believe that you exist beyond the physical, you will touch hands with those who have left. And it will be real. It will be more real than the physicality that you had touched before.
Are you aware that the physical body is a shield or a shell? It does not reveal but rather hinders revelation. If you did not have need of illusion you would not need a physical body at all.
What should you do immediately following the death of a loved one? That is an excellent question. First, the willingness to let that person go to the next step in their evolution is extremely helpful, not only to you but to them. A “farewell,” a “bon voyage,” a “Godspeed.” Then the rest of you look at each other and give comfort and assurance, and provide all the hugs and tissue that are necessary. Next, take yourself to a place of great luxury and enjoy an incredible feast. Salute the soul that has completed its task. Give a toast to the time you will meet again and go about the business of your own lives.
Death is not only a time of mourning. It is a time of truth.
Karmic ties can be formed by an unwillingness to express any negativity thus holding resentments that go into the soul consciousness to return in another life. By your dealing with the negative emotion, by cleansing the relationship, you are helping both of you. The saying “Don’t speak ill of the dead,” is nonsense. There is no such thing. 40
– Pat Rodegast, Emmanuel
Cited in You Have Chosen to Remember, p. 289-290
Most of us have already read or seen television accounts of people who said they died and went through a tunnel, and toward “the light.” The most eloquent way that I have read this light being described was in the book “A Course in Miracles.” The description is as follows:
Beyond the body, beyond the sun and stars, past everything you see and yet somehow familiar, is an arc of golden light that stretches as you look into a great and shining circle. And all the circle fills with light before your eyes. The edges of the circle disappear, and what is in it is no longer contained at all. The light expands and covers everything, extending to infinity, forever shining and with no break or limit anywhere. Within it, everything is joined in perfect continuity. Nor is it possible to imagine that anything could be outside, for there is nowhere that this light is not. 42
– A Course in Miracles
Cited in You Have Chosen to Remember, p. 293
If you are thinking you might get bored or tired after being in heaven for a while…don’t worry! Try to imagine something with me. Imagine you are a little bird who lives in a tiny cage made of rusty metal. And inside your cage you have a food dish, and a little mirror, and a tiny perch to swing on.
Then one day, some kind person takes your cage to a big, beautiful forest. The forest is splashed with sunlight. Proud, towering trees cover the hills and valleys as far as you can see. There are gushing waterfalls, and bushes drooping with purple berries, and fruit trees, and carpets of wild flowers, and a wide blue sky to fly in. And besides all these things, there are millions of other little birds, hopping from one green limb to another and eating their fill, and raising their little families, and singing their hearts out all through the day. Now, little bird, can you imagine wanting to stay in your cage? Can you imagine saying, “Oh please don’t let me go. I will miss my cage, I will miss my little food dish with seeds in it. I will miss my plastic mirror and my tiny little perch. I might get bored in that big forest.” 43
– Larry Libby, Someday Heaven
Cited in You Have Chosen to Remember, p. 299-300
Footnotes / Acknowledgments
Every effort has been made to provide accurate source attribution. Should any attribution be found to be incorrect, the author welcomes written documentation supporting correction for subsequent printings. For material not in the public domain, selection was made according to generally accepted fair-use standards and practices.
38. Joseph Bayly, A View from the Hearse, Copyright 1985 (Life-Journey Books).
39. Emmanuel, Pat Rodegast, Judith Stanton, Emmanuel, Copyright 1985 (Bantam Books).
40. Emmanuel, Pat Rodegast, Judith Stanton, Emmanuel, Copyright 1985 (Bantam Books).
42. Dr. Helen Schucman, Dr. William Thetford, A Course in Miracles, Copyright 1976 (Foundation for Inner Peace).
43. Larry Libby, Someday Heaven, Copyright 2001, (Zonderkids).
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