Forgiving My Fiancé For Cheating

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Two years ago, my fiancé cheated on me. He told me about it, told me he was sorry and would do whatever it takes to make it right. He has tried, I will give him that. But for some reason, I just won’t let it go. I do not know how. All I have done since that day is put him down and throw every single little thing he has done wrong in his face. I find fault in everything he says and does. I guess in a sense, one could say I am trying to hurt him like he hurt me. I grew up in a Christian family, but I have not always lived that life. I feel as if I am lost and do not know where to go from here. I do not want to lose him, because honestly he is a great person. I know God has a plan for everyone, and everything happens for a reason. How do you forgive someone? How do you just let go of the anger and move on? I need to know and I have prayed and prayed. How do we move on and forget what has been done to us? I know Jesus did, and I wish I was that strong. I told my fiancé that I did forgive him, but I really haven’t. I don’t like lying. I need to forgive him.

– Nikki, Kentucky, USA

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  1. Nicole Farmer
    Nicole Farmer12-12-2012

    I was touched by your answer to Nikki pointing to her how her desire for finding truth was so great that she actually manifested it outwardly through her question and thus let her desire for truth be a catalyst for the mystery of truth to flow through our being and manifest itself more and more in this plane we have for so long associated with pain, suffering and fear. By actually expressing her deep desire for truth, she is actually stepping into this marvelous dance that unites us in this search for love and truth, this dance of greatness and wonder as we dance in and around the fire of true Love, Beauty, Joy and Unity. Thank YOU for making a space where we see concretly how we are all searching and longing for this unity of who we truly are.

    Thank you so much for this space of openness. When I read the sharing on this forum, my heart seems to expand and open. Love and especially Joy fills my heart when I let myself be drenched by this spacious openness of this forum.

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