Let us no longer judge ourselves or others for how we react, feel, or for how long we believe we need to grieve. It is the ego who has programmed us to believe that there are proper and improper ways to react to tragedy. It is the ego who has placed parameters around how much or how little is appropriate grieving. Being that the ego’s main fuel source is judgment, anytime you are judging yourself or others, for grieving too much or too little, you are buying what the ego is selling. When you are in alignment with the ego’s judgment based mindset, you’re out of alignment with God. God is Love, and Love, thanks to free will, places no parameters around what you think you need to feel, nor for however long you think you need to feel it. Allow yourself to feel whatever it is you think you need to feel, for however long you think you need to feel it, in which ever way you think you need to feel it. Then offer this same courtesy to all others. Most groups of people have been programmed by the ego to defined death as tragic. Some respectfully, and sometime joyfully, celebrate a love ones returning to their true Home. Make the conscious decision not to add to anyone’s pain by forcing your beliefs on others. Offer them the space they need, listen to them, pray for and with them. Trust that every single one of their experiences, being a sacred co-creation with God, will in one form or another, serve their growth, healing, and awakening. Trust that every step on our journey, no matter how much the ego has programmed us to judge it, is a gift that we are allowing ourselves to experience. When we return Home, we will fully understand the perfect timing of our lives. This will bring us total peace. Yet, you need not wait for return Home to find peace now. Simply place your full trust in God instead of sacrificing it to the ego’s pain inducing mindset, and a greater sense of peace will result.
Every moment in our life has been gifted to us in order to help us reach a higher level of consciousness. Ask yourself, how are these “tragic” events helping me grow and develop into a more compassionate, loving, and forgiving human being? What are these events showing and asking me to do? Are they asking me to focus more on healing certain relationships? Are they asking me to take better care of myself? Are they asking me to increase my spiritual practice and trust in God’s plan? Only you can answer those questions for yourself. Take the time to answer these questions. Imagine the growth, development, self-awareness and healing, that could come from such an event. If you do so, would that event, as difficult as it was, not turn out to be a gift from the individual who return Home to you? Would you not be grateful for the people who were part of a process that help you achieve a greater sense of understanding, peace, compassion, and self-awareness. Could gratitude then, in the end, not become a possible response to this or any ‘tragedy?’ What you take from any event is up to you. The event, in and of itself, in that sense is neutral. Its neutrality is broken by how you choose to define it and what you choose to take from it. Know that God loves you and only desires your growth, healing and awakening. Any event, when properly understood, is an extension and reflection of that desire. When you do not understand it as an extension of this desire, a lack of peace results. When we understand it as a sacred part of our journey, which is only offering us the opportunity to grow, heal and awaken, peace results.
There is no right or wrong way to react to tragedy. Allow people to express themselves as they think they must. Do so and you will be set freed from the grip of having to log around, day and night, your own judgments. Could not such an event be the catalyst for you to truly understand what a waste of time judgment of self and others truly is? Could such an event not help you reevaluate and maybe even push you to begin living a more fulfilling life? Would such an event, by going through it yourself, not increase your levels of compassion, appreciation and love for others? Sooner or later, little by little, people will come to this realization, that good can come from bad, that joy can overcome sadness, and that peace can take the place of pain. Let your brothers and sisters come to this realization in their own sacred way and time. Be there for them, check up on them, invite out into the sun, have a drink and share a laugh, talk about the person who has passed, share memories, and listen unconditionally. You will not be sent to them, or be with them, by chance. God has asked you to help your brother and sister get through their tough time. You have, unconscious as you may be of it, accepted this challenge and honor. We will all awaken, and when we do we will figure out that the nightmare was just a nightmare, that time is just a blink of eternity’s eyes. We will see our brothers and sisters as eternal as their Creator. Soon, we will all once again find each other, hug, laugh and live joyfully forever together, in our Father’s Home. You and all you know, are eternal not temporal. You and all you know, were, long before you came into this physical world, and will still be, long after you choose to leave it. Know that this is so, and be at peace.
Today, if you are sent to one who is dealing with tragedy, you are in their presence, as a representative of God, Love. Remember this and offer this Love in whatever ways your heart and soul are calling you to do. Just by being in their physical presence, as a symbol of non-judgment, hope and healing, will help remind them, that the door to peace is still open. Listen to them, pray with them, help little by little lead them out of the darkness and back into alignment with the light. If you are blessed to be in the physical presence of one going through hard times, know that it is because God has entrusted you with His child. Know this and guide him or her back to a place of peace. If God trust you to take care of His child, then know that you should not lack trust in yourself. Simply call upon the love of God to guide you, and from this sacred union, offer them your peace, compassion, love and understanding.
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All glory to God.
Peace, Health, Happiness, Love, Laughter, and Light.
James Blanchard Cisneros
Author of the book “You Have Chosen to Remember: A Journey of Self-Awareness, Peace of Mind and Joy”
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