Let us not judge ourselves or others for how we react, feel, or for how long we believe we need to grieve. It is the ego who has taught us how to “properly” act or not act to tragedy. It is the ego who has placed parameters around, how much or how little, is appropriate grieving. Being that the ego’s main fuel source is judgment, anytime you are judging yourself or others, for grieving too much or too little, you are buying what the ego is selling. When you are in alignment with the ego’s judgment based mindset, you’re out of alignment with God. God is Love, and Love, thanks to free will, places no parameters around what you think you need to feel, nor however long you think you need to feel it. Allow yourself to feel whatever it is you think you need to feel, for however long you think you need to feel it, in which ever way you think you need to feel it, and being that we are all One, offer others this same courtesy, respect, kindness and compassion. Most groups of people have been programmed by the ego to defined death as tragic, and yet there are certain groups of people who choose to celebrate a love ones passing, their return back to their true Home. Make the conscious choice not to add to pain by forcing your beliefs on others, offer them the space they need, listen to them, pray for and with them, and trust that every single one of their experiences, will in one form or another, serve their growth, healing, and awakening. Every step on our journey is a sacred co-creation with God, every step on our journey, no matter how much the ego has programmed us to judge it, is a gift that we are allowing ourselves to experience, in order to reach a more peaceful, joyful, forgiving, compassionate, and enlighten state. When we all return Home, we will fully understand the perfect timing of our lives, and by doing so we will have peace. Yet, you need not wait for return Home to find peace now, simply place your full trust in God instead of sacrificing it to the ego’s pain inducing mindset, and a greater sense of peace will result.
Every moment in our life has been gifted to us in order to help us reach a higher level of consciousness. Ask yourself, how are these “tragic” events helping me grow and develop into a more compassionate, loving, and forgiving human being? What are these events showing and asking me to do? Are they asking me to focus more on healing certain relationships? Are they asking me to take better care of myself? Are they asking me to increase my spiritual practice and trust in God’s plan? Only you can answer those questions for yourself. Imagine, taking the time to answer these questions, imagine the growth, development, self-awareness and healing, that could come from such an event. Would, as difficult as that event was, not turn out to be a gift from the individual who return Home, to you? Would you not be grateful for the people who were part of a process that help you achieve a greater sense of understanding, peace, compassion, and self-awareness. Could gratitude then, in the end, not become a possible response to this or any ‘tragedy?’ What you take from any event is purely up to you. The event, in and of itself, in that sense is neutral, and its neutrality is broken and reshape by what you consciously and unconsciously choose to take and learn from it. Know that God desires your growth, healing and awakening, and so any event, when properly perceived, is an extension and expression of that desire. When you do not understand it as an extension of this desire, a lack of peace results, when we remember it as a sacred part of our journey, which is only offering us the opportunity to grow, heal and awaken, peace results.
There is no right or wrong way to react to tragedy. Allow people to express themselves as they think they must, and you will be set freed from the grip of having to log around, day and night, your own judgments. Could not such an event be the catalyst for you to truly understand what a waste of time judgment of self and others truly is? Would not such an event help you reevaluate and maybe even push you to begin implementing things that would make you live a more fulfilling life? Would such an event, by going through it yourself, not increase your levels of compassion and love for others? Sooner or later, little by little, people will come to this realization, that good can come from bad, that joy can overcome sadness, and that peace can take the place of pain. Let your brothers and sisters, come to this realization, in their own sacred way and time. Be there for them, check up on them, invite out into the sun, have a drink and share a laugh, talk about the person who has passed, share memories, and listen unconditionally. You will not be sent to them, or be with them, by chance. God has asked you to help your brother and sister get through their tough time, and you have, unconscious as you may be of it, accepted this challenge and honor. We will all awaken, and when we do we will figure out that the nightmare was just a nightmare, that time is just a blink of eternity’s eyes, that our brothers and sisters are as eternal as their Creator, and that we will all once again find each other, hug, laugh and live joyfully forever together, in our Father’s Home. You and all you know, are eternal not temporal. You and all you know, were, long before you came into this physical world, and you and all you know, will still be, long after you choose to leave it. Know that this is truly so, and once again be at peace.
Today, if you are sent to one who is dealing with tragedy, you are in their presence, as a representative of God, of Love, and so offer this Love in whatever ways your heart and soul are calling you to do. Just by being in their physical presence, as a symbol of non-judgment, hope and healing, you will help remind them, that the door to peace, is always open. Listen to them, pray with them, help little by little lead them out of the darkness and back into the light. If you are blessed to be in the physical presence of one going through hard times, know that it is because God has entrusted you with His child, to guide him or her back to a place of peace. If God trust you, then know that you should not lack trust in yourself. Be neither afraid nor confused, simply call upon the love of God, to join you, to listen and speak for you, and whatever it is that you offer them, will help bring them peace.
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All glory to God.
Peace, Health, Happiness, Love, Laughter, and Light.
James Blanchard Cisneros
Author of the book “You Have Chosen to Remember: A Journey of Self-Awareness, Peace of Mind and Joy”
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